Provoking/Punishing Your Children? When is too much?

Pastor Creflo Dollar ARRESTED For Allegedly CHOKING His Daughter

Recently in the news we have notice an outbreak of events that have sparked the attention of many people thru the social media networks. We have seen an increase of police abuse and also Pastor’s been caught not walking the talk. One example is Pastor Creflo Dollar which was recently arrested for “punching his daughter in the face”. Now I don’t know what happen to this brother in Christ but I do know that when you loose control of yourself is one thing but standing firm behind it without conviction is something else. I recently posted a blog title What the Bible Says about Talk and to tell you the truth, it really helps to know what is the Lord telling us about keeping it cool in times where we are about to loose control of ourselves. The tongue could get us in so much trouble and usually physical abuse would follow right after unless we control our anger against our children or friends.

In the report of this incident, the minor stated that is not the first time that she gets chocked or punched and this brings me back to a questioning mode about how the devil is working on our weaknesses and making us stumble and with this bringing glory to his evil plans which are to have people question the church of Christ. I need to say that none of us humans beings are perfect and free from sin. We all make mistakes and none are safe from satan’s attacks as it’s explain on this blog title Satan is eager to destroy you we all need to be ready to put the armor of God and stand firm against all the strategies of the evil one. Ephesians 6:10-18

But how much is too much? If a person makes a mistake and later on he ask for forgiveness then we should forgive this person. As it’s explain on this article title Forgiveness is not an option but a command. But if this person stays firm and try to justify to the rest that what he did is okay then this person needs to really be punish as a Pastor many people will follow and believe what he says and God won’t be very please to see that you now are been a vehicle for satan. As Pastor Creflo Dollar wrote on his Facebook page “Good morning Everyone, as a father I love my children and I always have their best interest at heart at all times, and I would never use my hand to ever cause bodily harm to my children. The facts in this case will be handled privately to further protect my children. My family thanks you for your prayers and continued support.” This statement contradicts what it was shown on the local news but should we forgive? Yes absolutely! Is satan involve? Yes all the way. The daughter’s behavior might have been unacceptable and guess who was behind it?

“If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”
Luke 17:1-4 NLT

So how can we handle our kids in a better way that we wouldn’t put ourselves in this situation? As Parents, we are not to provoke our kids. Specially when there is an argument already getting heated. We are to be the greater person and we must bring glory to our God by remembering what the Lord said on the scriptures:

4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4
New Living Translation (NLT)

As children of our heavenly Father, we must be obedient to our parents. We are to honor them all the time as it is written in the first commandment which also comes with a promise. If you are an obedient child, you will not have your life cut short because the Lord disciplines you for your rebellion, but you’ll live a full long life.

6 Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. 2 “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: 3 If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.”
Ephesians 6
New Living Translation (NLT)

So let’s re-focus and let’s understand what the enemy is trying to do in our lives and our homes. Satan is after our families and will not rest and will rejoice when he destroys Christian families and marriages. Let’s not focus on the news but let’s concentrate on prayer. Let’s not judge but let’s forgive each other as many times as it takes. Let’s move on and accept our mistakes and let’s get on our knees and ask God for forgiveness. Let’s lose the shame and let’s make our petition publicly as much as privately. Whatever it takes as long as we humble ourselves to the higher power of our Lord Jesus Christ.

So what is your stance on this topic? Do you think is okay the way that Pastor Creflo Dollar handle the argument with his daughter? Are you the type of parent that punish their child or do you talk to them and pray when they don’t want to listen?

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8 responses to “Provoking/Punishing Your Children? When is too much?

  • Jack S.

    “We have seen an increase of police abuse and also Pastor’s been caught not walking the talk. One example is Pastor Creflo Dollar which was recently arrested for “punching her daughter in the face”.”

    1. That would be *his* daughter
    2. From a purely objective standpoint, saying Creflo Dollar has been “caught” in anything is purely sensationalistic and without substance. All you or anyone else “knows” is what you have read in the media.

    Do you believe the media is 100% objective in their reporting?
    Do you believe law enforcement personnel are 100% honest in writing their reports and carrying out their duties?
    Do you believe in rendering conclusions as you have here without being an eyewitness to the incident or hearing all of the evidence from both sides?

    C’mon sir, you don’t know, you weren’t there. Therefore you are not qualified to render the conclusions you have put in to words.

    • James George

      I totally agree with you. So many people are quick to judge and talk without knowing the facts. That’s a form of gossiping you know?

  • Oviyanda Sims

    God’s word also tells us to discipline our children if we love them. God diciplines us because he loves us. that is the problem with all the out of control children today is lack of discipline. If some of those disrespectful children that think they know better would occassionally get their behinds whooped to get their attention just maybe Satan would not have an open door into their lives.The Spirit of Jezebel and her daughter have their minds set on taking out that generation and so far they seem to be winning.We need to step up our spiritual warfare against this before we loose this whole generation.That spirit is trying to take them out through that rebellious spirit,sexual imorality, homosexuality, drugs and alcohol, sucicides, disrespect to parents and at this point she is doing a darn good job of it. Children of God stop with the political correctness….loving our children does not mean letting them do what is wrong, nor is it accepting whatever they dish out and saying that is just who they are. No that is not who the Father created them to be. Folks this is the only generation with a promise on their heads since Jesus died… they are a royal seed and that is who Satan is after. This is war spiritual war. The choice is yours will you lay down and just accept what the enemy is doing under the guise of political correctness or will you put on your armor and fight?

  • terry kaseke

    totally 100% behind Creflo, why? Because kids know they can lie and get their parents in trouble by claiming abuse. Have seen it 1st hand and it destroys families outright.

  • Katherine Shinall

    Prophecy is being fufilled.We havePulpit Pimps.

  • tereasamansfield

    This is an interesting subject. I have not heard this story, yet, but I know it is not uncommon. Anger is poison in any relationship. We have a child with special needs that cause him to be very irrational and easily angered. It could be very easy (and is very tempting) to use anger against him, but the only thing that works is love and patience. Here is a thought provoking sermon about anger by S.M. Davis. It has changed many lives.

    God bless!
    Tereasa from

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  • allthefriends

    This was very thought-provoking to me. I have witnessed this sort of thing in my own home and evil is certainly involved in the escalation that occurs.

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