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The Shepherd is my Provider (Psalm 23 Explained)

Psalm 23 Explained

I was asked today by a dear friend on my Google Plus network if I could explain the meaning of Psalm 23 and what was the reason this is also read on funerals when someone is getting ready to meet the Lord. I have never been to a funeral so I didn’t know what they read but is a beautiful chapter and here is what I would like to share about it.

A Psalm of David.

23 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. 2 He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. 3 He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake. 4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. 6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the Lord Forever.
Psalm 23
New King James Version (NKJV)

As we see in verse 1 “The Lord is my shepherd,” we must put ourselves as sheep in the care of Jesus Christ our Messiah and savior who is Himself God as we read in John 1:1-3, 14 and Heb. 1:2

1 In the beginning the Word already existed. The Word was with God, and the Word was God. 2 He existed in the beginning with God. 3 God created everything through him, and nothing was created except through him.
John 1:1-3
New Living Translation (NLT)

2 And now in these final days, he has spoken to us through his Son. God promised everything to the Son as an inheritance, and through the Son he created the universe.
Hebrews 1:2
New Living Translation (NLT)

Christ is our shepherd and we are His chosen ones as sheep (John 10, John 21:15-17 and Hebrews 13:20). The shepherd is the provider and protector of his flock. The sheep are helpless without him. Similarly, human existence is but a sinful, carnal experience without God in our lives (John 5:30; Rom. 8:6-11).

How about this phrase “I shall not want,” this is an indication that as sheep in Christ’s care, we won’t lack anything. We should have a full understanding in regards to putting God and God’s way first in our life. (Matthew 6:25-34). See also the blog post “What is the Motive in your Life” which talks about not getting distracted and to focus in God’s plan in everyone’s life, and also the blog post “God Gives Life and a calling in everyone’s life” which talks about seeking God’s will in our life and then follow it.

“He makes me to lie down in green pastures: he leads me beside the still waters.” Both the “green pastures” and “still waters” indicate a blessed abundance, further illustrating the benefits of a God-led life.

Psalm 23:3 begins, “He restores my soul.” We must understand that we are sinners, but also that Christ had redeemed us and would continue to restore us upon repentance. The blog post “Forgiveness is not an option but a command” is a good example showing an understanding of repentance and forgiveness.

“he leads me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake,” indicates that it is Christ’s example that we are to follow, and that is to God’s glory when we obey. Yet is only through the power of the Holy Spirit, and Jesus Christ in us, that we are even able to do so (Gal. 2:20; Phil. 4:13). All of our Lord Yahweh’s commandments are righteousness.

172 My tongue shall speak of Your word, For all Your commandments are righteousness.
Psalm 119:172
New King James Version (NKJV)

King David was the one who wrote Psalm 23 and he knew that occasionally the shepherd had to lead his flock through treacherous terrain, and so he writes (as the sheep), “Yes, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff they comfort me.” David had complete trust and confidence in God and His way—He had no fear, even in the “shadow of death.” The rod and staff are the shepherd’s tools, and are used to guide and correct the path of the sheep—much in the same way God has to oftentimes guide, and occasionally correct, our path. This comforted David and should also confort us. Paul indicates in II Timothy 1:7 that this mindset comes only from God: “For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

“You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies: You anoint my head with oil; my cup runs over.” We must understand the promises of blessings and protections even in our hardest times of our lives we must have complete confidence. (Eph. 3:20; Luke 11:9-13; compare though with James 4:1-3).

We should all know that as long as we would follow Christ, “…goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life.” in the kingdom of God: “and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.” We must dwell in his house as servants, to serve him for ever. If God’s goodness to us be like the morning light, which shines more and more to the perfect day, let not ours to Him be like the morning cloud and the early dew that passeth away.

Personally, I would say that the reason why this is read in funerals is because it remind us of God’s promise and because it comforts the people left behind that God is taking care of the recently deceased as He will also take care of us left behind as we wait upon His return.

In conclusion, the best possible way to put it is that the Lord is our shepherd, and He knows what we need better than we do. God wants us to have what is best for us. As long as we trust in Him as our shepherd, He will lead us to places of safety. He knows how to direct us away from places where we will stumble. Even when we have fallen, He can still rescue us.

Has this message touched you in any way? The love of our Heavenly Father could change hearts even at the last minutes of our lives. Don’t wait until is too late before repenting of your sins and make a better change in your life to walk away from all the earthly pleasures. They give no life but bring sorrows and pain into our life and ultimately they only lead to death. Start the walk and make a change for yourself and your family. Be the leader your family deserves. All you have to do is Surrender and make the decision to follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.

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What is the motive in your life?

What is the motive in your life?

Now a days, most of us, think that success comes in a big peace into our life. But instead success comes in peaces into our life. Most people don’t have a formula for their problems. You want to get from one place to the other without suffering and expect to have success in your life without picking up the cross.

So what do we do? We pick up the pieces, develop a plan, and put the pieces together. Some might say that they don’t have enough money so they decide to go to school, which is a process that at the end will put you in a different place in your life.

So what to do? When you have a problem, work the pieces. Take it in small pieces and don’t dream of a big solution because that is most likely not going to happen. When you decide to work on your problems and you start to lay down the pieces, the biggest mistake that you could make is to start laying down the wrong pieces. When you are laying down a plan to solve an issue, make sure you don’t get distracted and get thrown off by a person, an issue, a relationship or spiritual warfare.

A person can have a strong passion to do the right thing, has a very clear, holy and righteous motive and then they can meet somebody. As you are laying down the pieces to develop a plan in your life, this distraction could make you get the wrong piece and this will change the course of your life.

We have been focus, we have been doing great, we were clear about the assignment but along the way we get manipulated by this distraction and they introduce a different set of values and priorities in your life.

Maybe you were married or in a relationship and all of a sudden you met this other person and now you’re not sure? Has this happen to you?

When you are succeeding in your plan, you become a target. As your motive is to spread the word of God and preach the gospel, you become more vulnerable. We must stay focus on the plan that we had lay down and stick to it. But as you are bringing glory to our Lord, we might be victims of this distractions.

Now you had a distraction in your life, which cause a change in your plan and now your life changes and often times we tend to focus on what the distraction did to you not on what we allow to happen. In order for you not to fall in this dirty plan from satan to get you off track, keep in mind this simple questions.

Be careful who you allow to override God’s will for your life.

Be careful when you allow someone to get into your life because you feel lonely, or you feel you have no friends. Maybe the lack of attention at home or the experimenting draws you into this distraction.

Some people are not thinking of you but just a moment of glory. 

They are not focus on you but themselves, on their needs, on their desires. They don’t care on the plan God have set up for you and the consequences of your distraction will bring into your life.

There is a story on 1 Kings 13 which explains how a young prophet was given a  commandment to follow and was given instructions on how to return back home but there was also an old prophet that heard about this young prophet prophesying the word of God to the king Jeroboam so he went and look for him. He lie to the young prophet about how to return back home. He told him that and angel of God has send him there to take him back home. He was not to eat or drink but to go back home in a different route and the young prophet believed him and fail to follow God’s commands. He was then kill as a punishment and the old prophet was not punished.

Is this fair? You are trying your best to fulfill the Lord’s plans and we allow a distraction to alter the plans. We get punish but how about the distraction? Well have you ever been the young prophet in your life and someone has taken advantage of you? Or have you ever been the old prophet and you have used others to your convenience making them stumble along the way?

Well my beloved brothers and sisters, I have been both in my life time. I have allowed distractions to get my focus off God’s plan and also there has been times when I don’t act mature enough to think about the other person’s feelings. We need to understand that there is one goal in this lifetime and is not about you all the time nor to fullfil your dreams and desires. People also have a plan in their life and we must ask ourself “are we the old prophet in their life?”

So what is your story? What have been your distractions in life? Has it been addictions, relationships, trouble forgiving, self focus? Whatever the distraction is you must repent and confess it to the Lord so your sins could be forgiven. Keep in mind that there is only one sin that will lead you to death and that is to not believe in the Son of God Jesus Christ.

Has this message touched you in any way? The love of our Heavenly Father could change hearts. Start the walk and make a change for youself and your family. Be the leader your family deserves. All you have to do is Surrender and make the decision to follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.


God Gives Life and a calling in everyone’s life.

Jeremiah’s Call

4 The Lord gave me this message:
5 “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.”

Jeremiah 1:4-5
New Living Translation (NLT)

One important message in this passage is that the creation of life is glorious and mysterious. Humans have been blessed as participants in God’s design for the furthering of the human race. We give physical birth to children-but God gives life.

This passage also informs us that God sets certain people apart for his work in the world. Jeremiah became a great prophet to the people of Israel. His work was not easy. People often didn’t want to hear his messages. But he persevered and obeyed God.

Each of us is also called by God for specific work here on earth. We may not be recipients of proclamations the way Jeremiah was, but we have other assignments to fullfill.

One of our greatest blessings is the ability to understand our callings. We can go to the Bible and read God’s words for us. We can ascertain our spiritual gifts. We can talk and pray with our spouses and bring the bending of two lives into the work that God has called us to do.

We know that some assignments are not grand or glorious. Some are difficult. Some are painstakingly slow in producing fruit. But when we endeavor to live out these callings, we find God’s blessings on all aspects of our lives.

God may not want us to be prophets like Jeremiah, but he does have a plan for us. it is our responsibility to cooperate with God now so that we can fulfill His plans for our lives. We need to seek out God’s will and then follow it. God will help and encourage us as we do it.

18 Jesus came and told his disciples, “I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth. 19 Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. 20 Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”

Matthew 28:18-20
New Living Translation (NLT)

The message of new life through faith in the crucified and resurrected Christ is to be offered to all the nations of the world. Those who by faith trust Christ for salvation are baptized to display their commitment. Continual instruction in the faith helps us grow and preserve our spiritual gains.

Jesus told His disciples to spread the gospel to all the world. So this is indeed something that we must do. How are you spreading the good news? What methods are you currently using to Evangelize to other brothers and sisters?

There are many blogs and websites that are dedicated to teach people how to use their social medias to better spread the good news to the lost. For an example Not Ashamed of the Gospel which wrote a blog post about this matter.

Has this message touched you in any way? Make the decision and follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.


Footprints

One night I had a dream–
I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord
and across the sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene I noticed two sets of footprints,
one belonged to me and the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that many times along the path of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I also noticed that it happened at the very lowest
and saddest times in my life.
This really bothered me and I questioned the Lord about it.
“Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you would walk with me all the way,
but I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life
there is only one set of footprints.
“I don’t understand why in times when I needed you most,
you should leave me.”
The Lord replied, “My precious, precious child,
I love you and I would never, never leave you
during your times of trial and suffering.
“When you saw only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you.”

Has this message touched you in any way? Make the decision and follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.


We are not Alone

We Are Not Alone

Our God is everywhere. We could never run away from Him even if we tried. Such knowledge should keep us from entering into sin and encourage us to follow Him, knowing He is there to help us. Just as He is not limited by space, neither is He limited by time. He works with us day and night to strengthen and encourage us.

O Lord , you have examined my heart
and know everything about me.
You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord .
You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!

I can never escape from your Spirit!
I can never get away from your presence!
If I go up to heaven, you are there;
if I go down to the grave, you are there.
If I ride the wings of the morning,
if I dwell by the farthest oceans,
even there your hand will guide me,
and your strength will support me.
I could ask the darkness to hide me
and the light around me to become night—
but even in darkness I cannot hide from you.
To you the night shines as bright as day.
Darkness and light are the same to you.

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God.
They cannot be numbered!
I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
you are still with me!

O God, if only you would destroy the wicked!
Get out of my life, you murderers!
They blaspheme you;
your enemies misuse your name.
O Lord , shouldn’t I hate those who hate you?
Shouldn’t I despise those who oppose you?
Yes, I hate them with total hatred,
for your enemies are my enemies.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
Point out anything in me that offends you,
and lead me along the path of everlasting life.

Psalm 139:1-24 NLT

Each of us is an amazing creation – wonderfully made! More than that, God is thinking about us at all times! Anytime we see ourselves as worthless, we are not seeing the truth. We need to begin to see ourselves as God sees us. When we see the truth that we are wonderfully made by God Himself, we will be encouraged to surrender our lives to Him so that He can transform us into the people He created us to be.


Surrender your Life to God! (A Prayer for Fathers)

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There is nothing greater than a man who has surrendered his life to the power of the Holy Spirit and he becomes an instrument in this world and in this church. When God fulfills a man’s heart and he is content, he can do great things for God. God has given you a family and God has ordained you and God has given you strength and it is through Jesus Christ that we come to know who we are.

So let me pray for all the Fathers that this year would be the best year you ever had as a man, in your thoughts, in your purity and with your family that you have ever experienced.

Prayer: Father, I pray, God, this year more than any other year that You would grant these men, these fathers, great, great hearts of understanding. Lord, as they have grown before You, may they come to an understanding of who You are. I pray that their priorities would begin to change and that, God, You would become so dominant in their life that, Father, their family, their children and their wives would see it. Now, God, begin to use them in a way that they have never been used before. Lord, they are the pillars of the church. They are the pillars of a country. I pray, God, that You would make them men of integrity, men of strength and men of courage. Thank You, God, for their lives and what they mean to us. I pray, God that their families would always, always love them and respect them. In Jesus’ name we pray…Amen! God bless you!


I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

I'll carry you out
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce. — At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.


Only for Singles

Many single people may keep asking themselves if is okay to stay single or is it better to get married. Well staying single is not a sin. But if been single causes you to have sexual sin then you should married.

Keep in mind that as Christians singles, we are not to be going out and start dating different people like the world. We are to stay clean for that special someone that God will put in our path. Now a days people think that is okay to “try before you buy” this means they want to see if things will work out and we allow to have intimacy with our partners before committing to marriage. Often times people live this kind of life for some time and you need to understand that this is a sinful way of living your life and you are not bringing glory to our God at all. So if you meet someone well is okay to have a friendship and to go out as long as there is no intimacy. Keep in mind that if you can not control yourself and you happen to have a weak flesh then you should get married. Not to just anyone but to the right person. A godly person that has God and loves the Lord before anything else, even yourself. Not just loving and believing by words but by actions. Anyone could say that they believe in the Lord but do they walk the talk?
Avoid touching each other to prevent temptation. A good friend will never want to start something that he is not willing to finish. You never want to go there since it is a path for a sinful relationship and ones you start how can you stop it?

If you do get married, be loyal to each other.

But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2 NLT

Remember that if you and your partner are both believers you need to understand that you are marrying that special one for life.

6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
Matthew 19:6
New Living Translation (NLT)

9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
Mark 10:9
New Living Translation (NLT)

Nothing should break this marriage apart but two things. Death or adultery. If you do get divorce without any of this 2 reasons, then you will make her/him to commit adultery.

31 “You have heard the law that says, ‘A man can divorce his wife by merely giving her a written notice of divorce.’ 32 But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.

Matthew 5:31-32
New Living Translation (NLT)

Five reasons for singles to go for marriage.

1. Procreation

28 Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”

Genesis 1:28
New Living Translation (NLT)

2. Pleasure

4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

Hebrews 13:4
New Living Translation (NLT)

3. Provision

You take a wife in order that you might protect her and care for her and nourish her as the Lord does the church. You are now to support your wife and kids. You are also to learn more about God so you could now teach your first ministry which is your family about the Lord and His commandments.

4. Partnership

It is not good to be alone, you need a helper. Many people are very okay to be on their own while others suffer greatly from loneliness and they often times get depress because they feel that no one will ever marry them. God intension is to give us a partner. In this way, we won’t feel lonely and we could serve God as a couple. Remember, it doesn’t mean that as soon as you find a godly man from your local church that you will stop attending and now you will dedicate your life to your husband. We are to love and dedicate our life to God and a godly partner will be with you all the way and will understand the real meaning of growing in knowledge of Christ.

5. Purity

The bed is not defiled, it’s undefiled. The husband then must fulfill his duty to his wife and likewise also the wife to her husband.

3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.

1 Corinthians 7:3
New Living Translation (NLT)

Paul says, “Look, it’s okay to be single, it’s okay to live without any relationships with the opposite sex, but it’s a whole lot better to marry because of immoralities. And then when you do marry, you have the duty to fulfill to each other.” That duty, obviously, is to render the physical affection that is consistent and God-ordained for the procreation and the pleasure of people in a marriage.

In fact, the duty is so high in a marriage that the wife doesn’t even have authority over her own body, the husband does. And likewise, the husband doesn’t have authority over his own body but the wife does. So, stop depriving one another. Paul says that’s not what God is asking. Have your own wife, have your own husband and fulfill your duties to each other. And do not deprive each other of that.”

5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:5
New Living Translation (NLT)

If there is some exigency in your life, some trauma in your life, some issue in your life which much like fasting from food, consumes you with sadness and sorrow, these kinds of things flee your mind. You agree to that. But come together again.” Why? “So that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” Don’t do that. You give Satan opportunity.

So the opposite is true. You think that you’ll be more pure by withholding that. The truth is, you’re going to go right down the path that Satan wants you to go into sin cause you’re going to be tempted because of your inability to exercise self-control. Get married for the sake of purity and when you’re married, fulfill your marriage covenant physically, do not deprive each other except for some great spiritual cause and come back together again so that you don’t put yourself in a position that Satan would tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

While you are still single

32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him.

1 Corinthians 7:32
New Living Translation (NLT)

I want you to be free from concern, one who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord, but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world how he may please his wife and his interests are divided.

34 His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:34
New Living Translation (NLT)

So there are some benefits to being single. If you have been given by God the gift, each man has his own gift. Spend that time and invest it with the Lord. Get closer to Him and learn more and serve Him in your local churches and join a ministry. It is hard to stay away from temptation but if you do have that gift then be bless and enjoy your time with happinness. what did Jesus say? “But not all men can handle that. Not everybody can handle that.”

10 Jesus’ disciples then said to him, “If this is the case, it is better not to marry!” 11 “Not everyone can accept this statement,” Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps.

Matthew 19:10-11
New Living Translation (NLT)

Staying singles It’s honorable. It has great potential to keep you single-minded and focused. But it’s a gift, it’s a unique gift. The gift is best known by those who feel strong, complete comfort in being single and no strong desire for a partner, for an intimate partner, a life partner. It’s an option. But please don’t conclude that there’s anything wrong with a God-given gift of physical intimacy. Singleness, the last thing that God wants out of singleness is sexual promiscuity. Be single if that’s not a problem. If that’s a problem, get married.

Is sexual activity unspiritual? No. But it must be perform while been in a marriage so it won’t become a sin in your life.

If you don’t have the gift of singleness. Should the formerly married remarry? Yes if they desire to be married because it’s better to be married than to burn. But if you can be single, be single and focus on the Kingdom.

You’re single and you come to Christ. Are you now supposed to be a monk the rest of your life? Are you supposed to be celibate the rest of your life? No. If you have that gift, fine. If you don’t, get married.

Becoming a Christian does not of necessity mean that you have to make some dramatic alteration of your marital status. That’s not what the Lord requires.

If you can remain single in the service of Christ, do so, but not to the jeopardy of your purity. If that’s an issue, get married. And if that’s an issue, don’t postpone your marriage cause marriage postponed constitutes an illegitimate single life. Just think about it if you are indeed getting married in a year from now? What might happen between now and then, do you have any idea?

Single people, don’t delay. If God’s designed you for marriage, get married. If you’re divorced or widowed and you can stay single, stay single. If not, and you have grounds for remarriage, get married. If you’re widowed and you can stay single, if not get married.

“I’m so far down the line, I’ve already messed up all that.” Well you’ll be glad to know if we confess our sins, He’s faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. It’s all about His forgiveness.

Are you ready to be forgiven? Make the decision and follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.

If you want to read concerning Marriage, please click here for the “All you need to know about Marriage” blog post.


All you need to know about Marriage

All you need to know about Marriage

We come to know now a days that there are so many questions about marriage that cross our minds and we get often confuse because we don’t know the answers so we make decisions in our lives that affect our walk with our dear Lord. This article will answer most of those questions and give you feedback on what to do when you encounter a tuff decision in your life without jeopardizing our relationship with our God.

We have a couple of love birds that decided to move forward with their relationship and now they are ready for marriage. They both are beleivers and God bless their marriage. Well know that you are in for a long run. Since this marriage is intended to be for ever.

6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
Matthew 19:6
New Living Translation (NLT)

9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
Mark 10:9
New Living Translation (NLT)

Now things are not working out very well and questions are rising. We’ll explain and answers this questions thru this article and then move on to talk about our duties as husband and wife in our marriage.

Is sexual activity unspiritual?

No is not. Now that God has bless your marriage, go ahead and fullfill your vows and render to a physical affection that is consistent and God-ordained for the procreation and the pleasure of both in a marriage.
In fact, the duty is so high in a marriage that the wife doesn’t even have authority over her own body, the husband does. And likewise, the husband doesn’t have authority over his own body but the wife does. So, stop depriving one another. Paul says that’s not what God is asking. Have your own wife, have your own husband and fulfill your duties to each other. And do not deprive each other of that.”

5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5
New Living Translation (NLT)

Can we be join by other in a group sex environment or an open relationship?

No. this is not what God intended in the beginning of times. God created a woman and a man to be united in marriage for the sole purpose to please each other to keep temptation away from our lives. Doing so will put you in a sinful relationship and will jeopardize your walk with the Lord.

4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’” 5 And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’
Matthew 19:4-5
New Living Translation (NLT)

2 But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2
New Living Translation (NLT)

Things are not working out anymore and we want to seek for divorce. Can we divorce our spouse and what are our options?

 Divorce is not an option for this type of relationship. Your marriage is to last for life and if there is anything bugging the couple, we are to trust and pray for the Lord to bring back this relationship in good standings. God hates divorce and because God joins together every couple. “What God has joined together, let not man separate.” Don’t divorce. One man, one woman, in one union, the indivisible one for life, no separation. But if you divorce your spouse you are commiting adultery since you are causing the other person to sin. Nothing should break this marriage apart but two things. Death or adultery. If you do get divorce without any of this 2 reasons, then you will make her/him to commit adultery.

31 “You have heard the law that says, ‘A man can divorce his wife by merely giving her a written notice of divorce.’ 32 But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.
Matthew 5:31-32
New Living Translation (NLT)

11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.”
Mark 10:11-12
New Living Translation (NLT)

If the wife still wants to be separeted for some time to think things thru, let her go. But you must not re-married anyone else but get back together reconciled to each other.

11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:11
New Living Translation (NLT)

1. Adultery
If one person in a marriage commited adultery then you are free to go. No sin will be commited here. But you don’t have to go. You are free to stay but you won’t have the sin of adultery if you indeed decide to leave your spouse.

2. Death of a spouse
If your spouse dies then you are free to either re-marry or you could stay single. Is up to you. If you have the gift to control yourself then is fine to stay alone but if you deal with the flesh and can’t resist temptations then you should re-marry. Either way, you won’t have the sin of adultery on you.

Things are not working out anymore and we want to seek for divorce. Can we divorce our spouse and what are our options for unequally joked relationships?

Now understand what happens, maybe a wife comes to hear the gospel, she believes in the gospel, she is saved and now she’s got an unconverted husband. Is she in a situation where she is unequally yoked together with an unbeliever? Is she having a relationship with a person who is part of the kingdom of Satan? Is this light and darkness joined together? Is this sin and righteousness joined together? The Lord’s teaching is no divorce if there is no problems.

1. If any brother has a spouse who is an unbeliever and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman who has an unbelieving husband and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband or divorce her husband.

12 Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. 13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him.
1 Corinthians 7:12-13
New Living Translation (NLT)

2. If any brother has a spouse who is an unbeliever and she wants to divorse him, he should let her go. You don’t have to but is an option that you have without commiting adultery for accepting the divorce.

15 (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.)
1 Corinthians 7:15
New Living Translation (NLT)

If I want to stay why should I stay? “For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband, for otherwise your children are unclean but now they are holy.”

If your unbelieving partner loves you and wants to stay with you, you stay in that marriage. Why? “Because you become the sanctifying instrument in the life of that non-believer and in the children of that union because you are the one receiving the grace of God that is being poured out on your life that will spill over to those unbelieving people and to your husband or your wife and your children.” Instead of the Christian, listen, being defiled by the unbeliever, the unbeliever is cleansed by the presence of the Christian.

We’re not talking about salvation here. We’re simply talking about the pure, wonderful blessings of God falling on a believer and spilling over to a non-believer and making a purer, cleaner, lovelier home. God pours out His blessings on His redeemed and on the children of His redeemed.

I need to shake that partner because he’s a pagan, he’ll defile me. No, you’ll be the means of sanctifying influence on him.

3. If one person in a marriage commited adultery then you are free to go. No sin will be commited here. But you don’t have to go. You are free to stay but you won’t have the sin of adultery if you indeed decide to leave your spouse.

Special rule “No Longer Bound to the Law”  This applies to widows and when someone is a victim of adultery or an unbeliever wants to divorce a beleiver.

You are not under bondage. The bondage is broken. You are no longer bound. The married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living. If her husband dies, she is released from that law. Same language here. If an unbeliever leaves, you are not bound.

1 Now, dear brothers and sisters—you who are familiar with the law—don’t you know that the law applies only while a person is living? 2 For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. 3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing adultery if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries.
4 So, my dear brothers and sisters, this is the point: You died to the power of the law when you died with Christ. And now you are united with the one who was raised from the dead. As a result, we can produce a harvest of good deeds for God. 5 When we were controlled by our old nature, sinful desires were at work within us, and the law aroused these evil desires that produced a harvest of sinful deeds, resulting in death. 6 But now we have been released from the law, for we died to it and are no longer captive to its power. Now we can serve God, not in the old way of obeying the letter of the law, but in the new way of living in the Spirit.
Romans 7:1-6
New Living Translation (NLT)

What does that mean? The union has been broken, you no longer are bound by it which then assumes you have the right to remarry if a non-believer leaves because God has called us to peace and the blessings of peace are what God wants for His children.

You say, “Well, I think I’ll just hang on till the dying day. I think I’ll fight this guy all the way to the end. I think I’ll make it really impossible for him to divorce me because I want to see him saved.” Good. However, verse in 1 Corinthians 7:16 is written for you. “How do you know…how do you know, O wife, whether you’ll save your husband?” That’s pretty practical, isn’t it? Marriage is not an evangelistic tool. It’s an evangelistic context, but don’t think that just by hanging on to this guy that some how you’re going to save him. How do you know whether you’ll save him? Or how do you know, husband, whether you’ll save your wife?

16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
1 Corinthians 7:16
New King James Version (NKJV)

That’s not the point. You have no knowledge of that. When the unconverted person is determined to leave and seeks a divorce, you don’t need to perpetuate the tension and the frustration and the hatred and the animosity under some notion that you might be the only person on the planet who can be the instrument of salvation. That’s for God to decide.

If you don’t have the gift of singleness. Should the formerly married remarry? Yes if they desire to be married because it’s better to be married than to burn. But if you can be single, be single and focus on the Kingdom.

I want you to know that Paul in the book of 1 Corinthians doesn’t say get married because you find somebody that you like. He says, really get married because you’re running at a very high risk of life if you don’t. We are not to have any room for temptation, fornication, sexual inmoralities. The fact of life is that if you try to stay single, as good as celibacy can be, marriage is the norm and marriage is better if being single results in temptation.

As a married couple you have the duty to fulfill to each other. That duty, obviously, is to render the physical affection that is consistent and God-ordained for the procreation and the pleasure of people in a marriage.

In fact, the duty is so high in a marriage that the wife doesn’t even have authority over her own body, the husband does. And likewise, the husband doesn’t have authority over his own body but the wife does. So, stop depriving one another. Paul says that’s not what God is asking. Have your own wife, have your own husband and fulfill your duties to each other. And do not deprive each other of that.”

5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5
New Living Translation (NLT)

If there is some exigency in your life, some trauma in your life, some issue in your life which much like fasting from food, consumes you with sadness and sorrow, these kinds of things flee your mind. You agree to that. But come together again.” Why? “So that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” Don’t do that. You give Satan opportunity.

There are only two ways that you can be married and then not be married.
You either were widowed or you were divorced. So to those who have been divorced, called the unmarried, and to widows, it is good for them if they remain singles.

34 His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:34
New Living Translation (NLT)

The unmarried are the formerly married, which means they went to a divorse. “If she leaves, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband.” unless there was adultery involve then this doesn’t apply to you.

11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:11
New Living Translation (NLT)

“If they do not have self-control, let them marry. It’s better to marry than to burn.” Not burn in hell, but burn with desire.

9 But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.
1 Corinthians 7:9
New Living Translation (NLT)

But if you need to be married, if that’s a problem physically, get married. And you remember in 1 Timothy 5:14, the Apostle Paul makes this very clear when he’s talking about widows there. He says, “I want younger widows to get married, bear children, keep house, give the enemy no occasion for a reproach, for some have already turned aside to follow Satan.” You don’t’ want a lot of young widows with all their desires being vulnerable to evil things around them. Stay single if you’re able. Paul was able and he was focused and he was given that gift. It indicates that God can give that gift even after marriage if He so desires. Be convinced that God has allowed your singleness for holy purposes. Pour your life in to the Kingdom.

14 So I advise these younger widows to marry again, have children, and take care of their own homes. Then the enemy will not be able to say anything against them.
1 Timothy 5:14
New Living Translation (NLT)

“Should salvation change our marital status?” That’s kind of what we’ve been dealing with. “Only as the Lord has assigned to each one as God has called each in this manner, let him walk.”

17 Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.
1 Corinthians 7:17
New Living Translation (NLT)

Salvation doesn’t really change anything. Now that you’re a believer, you don’t have to give up sex, throw out your partner. It doesn’t change anything. If you and he gives some illustrations and analogies, “Was any man called when he was already circumcised?” If you were saved when you were Jewish, you can stay that way. Don’t become uncircumcised. If you were called in uncircumcision, don’t be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. But what matters is the keeping of the commandments of God.

And that’s simply an analogy and an illustration to say everybody remains in the condition in which he was called. So if you were saved single, that doesn’t change. If you were saved married, that doesn’t change. If you were saved and all of a sudden your unconverted spouse wants to divorce you, stay the way you are.

So how does that work out? You come, you receive the Lord Jesus Christ, you’re a converted husband, you have an unsaved wife. You’re a converted wife, you have an unsaved husband. What are you supposed to do? Withhold from him a physical relationship? Divorce him? Throw him out of the house? No, stay where you are.

Single or married, whatever God wills in whatever situation you’re in, stay that way. That is so important because Christianity was never intended to just rip and shred families. The very opposite is true. Unless that unbeliever wants to leave, you become the sanctifying influence for the one that stays.

Marriage has no relation to the eternal, right? You remember when they said to Jesus, “Who’s wife shall she be in heaven?” And Jesus said, “In heaven there is neither marrying or giving in marriage.” This is…this is good advice, Paul says, the pressure of the system, the problems of the flesh, living in this life, and the passing of the world means that if you can concentrate on the eternal things, in dire times, you simplify your life.

In Summary:

So bottom line here, up to this point, is that becoming a Christian does not of necessity mean that you have to make some dramatic alteration of your marital status. That’s not what the Lord requires.

For single people, don’t delay. If God’s designed you for marriage, get married. If you’re divorced or widowed and you can stay single, stay single. If not, and you have grounds for remarriage, get married. If you’re widowed and you can stay single, if not get married. If you’re married to a believer, remain. If you’re married to a non-believer and he wants to stay, or she wants to stay, remain and be a sanctifying blessing to the family. And if you’re married to an unbeliever who wants out, let him go, you’re not in bondage to that person.

Well, you say, “I’m so far down the line, I’ve already messed up all that.” Well you’ll be glad to know if we confess our sins, He’s faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness, right? It’s all about His forgiveness.

Father, it’s been exciting to just dig in to this a little bit and have hopefully a better understanding of Your truth on this and we know that what You give us is for our good. It is so that we can put ourselves in the place of maximum joy and maximum blessing and we all need forgiveness, Lord, for so many things in our lives. And there are folks who are reading this today that are feeling some of the pain of breaking Your law in the past, but You’re a God of forgiveness and You cleanse us from all our sins according to the riches of Your grace that are provided for us endlessly and boundlessly in Christ. And all You ask of us is that we confess, that we repent, and that we start a pattern of obedience in our lives now. I pray, Lord, that Your grace would be upon all of us and that Your power would be on us to enable us to live as You would have us live, whether single or married, whatever You have for us, may we know that clearly, may we live joyfully in the midst of that. And would You provide for us what we so much need in order to be the people You want us to be. We thank You in Your Son’s name. Amen.

Are you ready to be forgiven? Make the decision and follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.

If you want to read concerning Singles, please click here for the “Only For Singles” blog post.


Get on your knees and Surrender your Life to Christ

Get on your knees and Surrender your Life to Christ

Get on your knees and Surrender your Life to Christ

When I woke up this morning, I asked myself, “What is life about?” I found the answer in my room…the​ fan said, “Be cool.” The roof said, “Aim high.” The window said, “See the world!” The clock said, “Every minute is precious.”​ The mirror said, “Reflect before you act.” The calendar said, “Be up to date.” The door said, “Push hard for your goals.” The floor said, “Kneel down and pray”…


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