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Provoking/Punishing Your Children? When is too much?

Pastor Creflo Dollar ARRESTED For Allegedly CHOKING His Daughter

Recently in the news we have notice an outbreak of events that have sparked the attention of many people thru the social media networks. We have seen an increase of police abuse and also Pastor’s been caught not walking the talk. One example is Pastor Creflo Dollar which was recently arrested for “punching his daughter in the face”. Now I don’t know what happen to this brother in Christ but I do know that when you loose control of yourself is one thing but standing firm behind it without conviction is something else. I recently posted a blog title What the Bible Says about Talk and to tell you the truth, it really helps to know what is the Lord telling us about keeping it cool in times where we are about to loose control of ourselves. The tongue could get us in so much trouble and usually physical abuse would follow right after unless we control our anger against our children or friends.

In the report of this incident, the minor stated that is not the first time that she gets chocked or punched and this brings me back to a questioning mode about how the devil is working on our weaknesses and making us stumble and with this bringing glory to his evil plans which are to have people question the church of Christ. I need to say that none of us humans beings are perfect and free from sin. We all make mistakes and none are safe from satan’s attacks as it’s explain on this blog title Satan is eager to destroy you we all need to be ready to put the armor of God and stand firm against all the strategies of the evil one. Ephesians 6:10-18

But how much is too much? If a person makes a mistake and later on he ask for forgiveness then we should forgive this person. As it’s explain on this article title Forgiveness is not an option but a command. But if this person stays firm and try to justify to the rest that what he did is okay then this person needs to really be punish as a Pastor many people will follow and believe what he says and God won’t be very please to see that you now are been a vehicle for satan. As Pastor Creflo Dollar wrote on his Facebook page “Good morning Everyone, as a father I love my children and I always have their best interest at heart at all times, and I would never use my hand to ever cause bodily harm to my children. The facts in this case will be handled privately to further protect my children. My family thanks you for your prayers and continued support.” This statement contradicts what it was shown on the local news but should we forgive? Yes absolutely! Is satan involve? Yes all the way. The daughter’s behavior might have been unacceptable and guess who was behind it?

“If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”
Luke 17:1-4 NLT

So how can we handle our kids in a better way that we wouldn’t put ourselves in this situation? As Parents, we are not to provoke our kids. Specially when there is an argument already getting heated. We are to be the greater person and we must bring glory to our God by remembering what the Lord said on the scriptures:

4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4
New Living Translation (NLT)

As children of our heavenly Father, we must be obedient to our parents. We are to honor them all the time as it is written in the first commandment which also comes with a promise. If you are an obedient child, you will not have your life cut short because the Lord disciplines you for your rebellion, but you’ll live a full long life.

6 Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. 2 “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: 3 If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.”
Ephesians 6
New Living Translation (NLT)

So let’s re-focus and let’s understand what the enemy is trying to do in our lives and our homes. Satan is after our families and will not rest and will rejoice when he destroys Christian families and marriages. Let’s not focus on the news but let’s concentrate on prayer. Let’s not judge but let’s forgive each other as many times as it takes. Let’s move on and accept our mistakes and let’s get on our knees and ask God for forgiveness. Let’s lose the shame and let’s make our petition publicly as much as privately. Whatever it takes as long as we humble ourselves to the higher power of our Lord Jesus Christ.

So what is your stance on this topic? Do you think is okay the way that Pastor Creflo Dollar handle the argument with his daughter? Are you the type of parent that punish their child or do you talk to them and pray when they don’t want to listen?


What the Bible Says about Talk

Words Show The Real You

45 A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.
Luke 6:45
New Living Translation (NLT)

26 If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless.
James 1:26
New Living Translation (NLT)

32 The lips of the godly speak helpful words, but the mouth of the wicked speaks perverse words.
Proverbs 10:32
New Living Translation (NLT)

Think Before You Speak

19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.
James 1:19
New Living Translation (NLT)

36 And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak. 37 The words you say will either acquit you or condemn you.”
Matthew 12:36-37
New Living Translation (NLT)

23 Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.
Proverbs 21:23
New Living Translation (NLT)

27 A truly wise person uses few words; a person with understanding is even-tempered. 28 Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent; with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent.
Proverbs 17:27-28
New Living Translation (NLT)

28 The heart of the godly thinks carefully before speaking; the mouth of the wicked overflows with evil words.
Proverbs 15:28
New Living Translation (NLT)

Words have an Effect

20 A man’s stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth; From the produce of his lips he shall be filled.
Proverbs 18:20
New King James Version (NKJV)

23 From a wise mind comes wise speech; the words of the wise are persuasive. 24 Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.
Proverbs 16:23-24

New Living Translation (NLT)

15 A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Proverbs 15:1
New Living Translation (NLT)

4 Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
Proverbs 15:4
New Living Translation (NLT)

2 Wise words will win you a good meal, but treacherous people have an appetite for violence. 3 Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.
Proverbs 13:2-3
New Living Translation (NLT)

18 Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.
Proverbs 12:18
New Living Translation (NLT)

Good Talk, Bad Talk

6 Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.
Colossians 4:6
New Living Translation (NLT)

25 So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body.
Ephesians 4:25
New Living Translation (NLT)

29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
Ephesians 4:29

New Living Translation (NLT)

15 Wise words are more valuable than much gold and many rubies.
Proverbs 20:15
New Living Translation (NLT)

13 A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.
Proverbs 11:13
New Living Translation (NLT)

It’s not Easy to Control Your Talk 

We all make mistakes, but those who control their tongues can also control themselves in every other way. We can make a large horse turn around and go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a tiny rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot wants it to go, even though the winds are strong. So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. A tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And the tongue  is a flame of fire. It is full of wickedness that can ruin your whole life. It can turn the entire course of your life into a blazing flame of destruction, for it is set on fire by hell itself.

People can tame all kinds of animals and birds and reptiles and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is an uncontrollable evil, full of deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it breaks out into curses against those who have made in the image of God. And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right! Does a spring of water bubble out with both flesh water and bitter water?  Can you pick olives from a fig tree or figs from a grapevine? No, and you can’t draw fresh water from a salty pool.

But It’s Worth The Effort

12 Does anyone want to live a life that is long and prosperous? 13 Then keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies!
Psalm 34:12-13
New Living Translation (NLT)

It is foolish for us to lose our temper when we are insulted. We demonstrate maturity by staying self-controlled and expressing our anger without sinning.

What makes you brothers and sister loose control this days? Are your kids, family or co-workers pushing your buttons? Are you able to control yourself or do you often see yourself coming back  and apologizing to others?

Has this message touched you in any way? The love of our Heavenly Father could change hearts. The hearts controls your tongue so if you are one of those persons that can’t seem to control what comes out of your mouth then know that the Holy Spirit could change your entire self. Start the walk and make a change for youself and your family. Be the leader your family deserves. All you have to do is Surrender and make the decision to follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.


We are not Alone

We Are Not Alone

Our God is everywhere. We could never run away from Him even if we tried. Such knowledge should keep us from entering into sin and encourage us to follow Him, knowing He is there to help us. Just as He is not limited by space, neither is He limited by time. He works with us day and night to strengthen and encourage us.

O Lord , you have examined my heart
and know everything about me.
You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord .
You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!

I can never escape from your Spirit!
I can never get away from your presence!
If I go up to heaven, you are there;
if I go down to the grave, you are there.
If I ride the wings of the morning,
if I dwell by the farthest oceans,
even there your hand will guide me,
and your strength will support me.
I could ask the darkness to hide me
and the light around me to become night—
but even in darkness I cannot hide from you.
To you the night shines as bright as day.
Darkness and light are the same to you.

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God.
They cannot be numbered!
I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
you are still with me!

O God, if only you would destroy the wicked!
Get out of my life, you murderers!
They blaspheme you;
your enemies misuse your name.
O Lord , shouldn’t I hate those who hate you?
Shouldn’t I despise those who oppose you?
Yes, I hate them with total hatred,
for your enemies are my enemies.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
Point out anything in me that offends you,
and lead me along the path of everlasting life.

Psalm 139:1-24 NLT

Each of us is an amazing creation – wonderfully made! More than that, God is thinking about us at all times! Anytime we see ourselves as worthless, we are not seeing the truth. We need to begin to see ourselves as God sees us. When we see the truth that we are wonderfully made by God Himself, we will be encouraged to surrender our lives to Him so that He can transform us into the people He created us to be.


“God was working on me as he was working through me”

Alex Kendrick is living proof that God can use obedient people to accomplish the seemingly impossible. How can he and the pastors of a small Georgia church produce, direct and market one movie-much less four theatrical released films- that keep impacting the lives of millions of people.

In this I am Second film Alex details the incredible story of how God worked to create and distribute the movies. He also reveals how God was convicting him in many of the same areas as the movie topics. His dilemma-if he could be obedient in making movies for God, could he also be obedient in making changes in his life, too?

God said something to me…it’s like he spoke to me so clearly that I heard him word for word. He said, “Alex would you rather have an easier road with less fruit or a harder road with more fruit.” And I was so stunned at that, I turned to my wife and I said, “ God just asked me a question” And she said, “what?” And I said, “God just asked me a question.” And she said, “well what did you say?” I said, “I do not know. I did not answer.”

As a boy, for years we did not even have a television. Our parents were pretty conservative, loved the Lord and wanted to …you know rightly protect us. We were able to see on occasion a movie, a family friendly movie at the theater. I remember being enamored with these huge stories on screen. The Raiders of the Lost Ark, the Star Wars movies, and somewhere around the age of 9 or 10 I started thinking that I must do this. Most of the stories that I made as a kid with our home video camera were “chase them down beat them up” movies. We had to have action. We had to have humor. We would show them to our family and neighborhood friends and they would laugh with us but the older I got I remember seeing how a good story would impact the audience. That was my wakeup call. That God could say, “ Alex, I can use your desire to do this for my purposes and do more with it than you ever thought possible if you trust me with it.”

I prayed about it. And God gave me this idea for a plot called Flywheel. It was about a used car salesman who would live one way in front of his family and church friends and another way behind the scenes. Men began responding to the story of Flywheel saying, “that’s me” on the screen. “that is me.” Then before we knew it, Blockbuster video had picked it up and put it in their stores nationwide. And I was excited and at the same time I was overwhelmed. Our Pastor Michael then said, “this may be an open door that God has given us. We may need to pray about continuing this avenue for ministry.”

That led us to our second movie Facing the Giants. I had no clue what was coming. God was about to teach us something hard, and yet amazing. We felt a very strong sense that God was saying, “Deal with faith.” Everyone has a giant fear, sense of failure, struggling with inferiority, or some ball and chain in their own life.“

We asked the question – Is God only worthy of being worship when he is doing good to you or is he worthy of being worshiped because he is God? I was excited about this message, and then we go knock on several doors of distributors, hoping that somebody will pick it up and release it theatrically.

No one was interested. They said, “ it’s a nice story.” “not really our cup of tea or something we feel like would work well enough to invest for a theatrical release.” So I was frustrated. And I said, “God I feel like you gave us this theme and this message and you took us down this road. And we have poured our heart and soul into this. We did this for you and now it is sitting on a shelf. No one is interested, why?”

God said to me, “Alex you made a movie that says that God is worth worshiping and serving whether you win or whether you lose. Will you do that with this film?” so we surrendered it to God and I died to a theatrical release.

Soon after that a music company we had asked permission to use a song in the film calls us. And they say to us, “not only can you use the song, but our parent company is interested in releasing your movie theatrically. “ We said, “Who is your parent company?” They said, “Sony.” The one door we had not knocked on. God opened a door we could not have opened. We did not even knock on their door.

Facing the Giants was released in several hundred movie theatres in fall of 2006. It did better than any of us expected. The marketing budget was small and the number of theaters was so far less than any other Hollywood movie, but the response was incredible. People were saying, “this is my giant , that’s my giant.” God had done the same thing in my life and watching him do it in so many other lives was so fulfilling.

As the platform expanded for us to tell these stories, as more theatres jumped on board, more ministries caught hold of what these movies could do for people. For some reason, the path got harder for us.

My time with my wife and my children began to lessen and began to pull on my own identity. Who am I? What am I supposed to be doing here? And it would only get harder from there.

As we continued praying, God impressed on us to make a film about a marriage totally surrendered to him. God gave us this concept for what we called the Love Dare. About a husband who’s marriage was failing and so he wanted out and his wife wanted out and the husband’s dad who had trusted God late in his life came to him and said, “don’t get divorced, yet, I want you to hold off for 40 days, before proceeding and I want you to apply these principles to your life and how you treat your wife for 40 days.”

So we make this movie Fireproof. And my brother, Stephen, and I start praying through, should we write this book The Love Dare for real. As we are working on this book, we find a publisher for it, but before it comes out, issues in my own marriage started to bubble up to the surface.

Some insecurity in my wife and some of her frustration that– because I was pouring so much of myself into something that was good- she felt in many ways neglected- put on the back burner.

I knew she loved me and I knew I loved her, but I was thinking “what is going on here?” I was writing a book and making a movie about how to have a Godly marriage and my own marriage was being stretched and pulled more than it ever had.

And initially that frustrated me. And I remember thinking, “ why can you not be on my team?” so we agreed to go to marital counseling. While we are in counseling this book the Love Dare on how to have a good marriage is being released. It is not that the Love Dare wasn’t true and didn’t work ‘cause they are biblical principles and I ended up doing it in my own marriage. But God stripped me down to the core and reminded me that just because I know truth in my head doesn’t mean that I have it all figured out in my own heart. That I needed him as much as anybody. I had to cling to his grace and his truth as much as I ever had.

After Fireproof we asked “God do you want us to make another film and if so what should it be about.” And after praying God directed us to fatherhood. I do not have to tell you what is going on with men in our culture. They are not stepping up the way they need to step up and I was not stepping up the way I needed to step up. It kind of freaked me out because I was thinking, “God why are you making me live out the movies that we are presenting. You did it in Giants and you did it in Fireproof.” It kind of unnerved me because in some ways I was not so sure I wanted to do another movie.

God kind of has a way of knocking the pride out of you. But he also has a way of using you, so as long he gives me the strength and the grace to tell another story. If He is there with me, I’ll do it.

My prayer is that Courageous grabs men by their throats and reaches into their hearts and sparks them to chase after God. We want to see God rock our culture with men stepping up, so I’ll carry that torch. My brother, Stephen, will carry that torch. If He helps me. And I am counting on it.

My name is Alex Kendrick and I am Second.

Has this message touched you in any way? Make the decision and follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.


John 1:1

In the beginning the Word already existed. The Word was with God, and the Word was God.

John 1:1 NLT


The Unforgiven Sin

28 “I tell you the truth, all sin and blasphemy can be forgiven, 29 but anyone who blasphemes the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven. This is a sin with eternal consequences.”

Mark 3:28-29
New Living Translation (NLT)

This means that whoever speaks abusively against or maliciously misrepresents the Holy Spirit can never get forgiveness, but is guilty of and is in the grasp of an everlasting trespass.


The Kind of Woman that every Man wants

A woman of virtue uses her lips for truth, her voice for kindness, her ears for compassion, her hands for charity, her heart for love, and for those who don’t like her, she uses prayer.


God’s truth vs Satan’s lies

God accomplishes his will on earth through truth; Satan accomplishes his purpose through lies.

faith in God’s truth leads to victory; faith in Satan’s lies leads to defeat.

When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future.
John 16:13 NLT

For you are the children of your father the devil, and you love to do the evil things he does. He was a murderer from the beginning. He has always hated the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies.
John 8:44 NLT


Christ gift of Light

“No one lights a lamp and then hides it or puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where its light can be seen by all who enter the house.

“Your eye is a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is good, your whole body is filled with light. But when it is bad, your body is filled with darkness. Make sure that the light you think you have is not actually darkness. If you are filled with light, with no dark corners, then your whole life will be radiant, as though a floodlight were filling you with light.”

Luke 11:33-36 NLT

Christ promised that there should be one sign more given, even the sign of Jonah the prophet; which in Matthew is explained, as meaning the resurrection of Christ; and he warned them to improve this sign. But though Christ himself were the constant preacher in any congregation, and worked miracles daily among them, yet unless his grace humbled their hearts, they would not profit by his word. Let us not desire more evidence and fuller teaching than the Lord is pleased to afford us. We should pray without ceasing that our hearts and understandings may be opened, that we may profit by the light we enjoy. And especially take heed that the light which is in us be not darkness; for if our leading principles be wrong, our judgment and practice must become more so.


Satan’s target your mind

Make them holy by your truth; teach them your word, which is truth.
John 17:17 NLT

If Satan can get you to believe a lie, then he can begin to work in your life to lead you into sin. This is why he attacks the mind, and this is why we must protect our minds from the attacks of the wicked one.


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